ok maybe i should give yall a proper intro on me #introduction
i'm alex, i'm a kitty 
who moved from poland to netherlands (living in Utrecht as of now) in september 2024 kind of by force
i speak polish and english, as well as trying to learn dutch (with little to no results though)
at the time of writing this i am no longer a neet woohoo 
i got a job
i usually draw things in my free time or endlessly scroll the internet for no reason. i collect plushies and keep them on my desk, as well as collect pokemon TCG cards.
i also gamed a lot, but nowadays i am trying to find motivation to boot up something else than osu from time to time
if i get the inspiration i work on static websites, most notably my personal site, dokokashira.nl (that needs to be updated asap because of how many outdated things there are
still morphing and trying to discover myself now that i have a proper environment to do so
i'm a trans gay guy and started my HRT on february 8 2025 
i'm proudly disabled (HoH, AuDHD, C-PTSD, BPD et al) and i wish for a better world
where else to find me on fedi:
@kaaskop - art account
@alexander - private account for friends
@kaviaar - AD account, only for people i know that are 18+
also @nugget from time to time when i test something on wafrn
as always, tag spam for reach and topics:
#furry #artistsOnFedi #pokemon #ActuallyAutistic #vocaloid #AuDHD #indieWeb #disability #hardOfHearing #LGBTQ #transmasc #ftm #queer #videoGames #digitalArt #netherlands #utrecht
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Practical Tips for Disclosing Your Autism
Hello everybody!
I guess it is time for an #introductions
I am June, from Vancouver, Canada. My gender is 422. 
Gosh, I'm supposed to describe who I am and my life? No idea where to start.
I am an extrovert, survivor, and kind of 3 cats in a trench coat, pretty sure one of them is a racoon in disguise.
For what I do: I develop my own video games (Unreal), make art in various mediums (traditional, digital, photography, 3D, interactive,...) and DJ for my friends. I love hikes, road-trips, raves, novelty and being like, super weird. I also freedive a lot and read mental health scholarly articles for fun.
I do not especially identify as transgender, but gender transition is what I am engaged in.
I am part of a polyamory / relationship anarchist family with my partner, where I am helping raise a lovely (and quite hilarious) child.
I am currently in collaboration to attempt at creating a prosocial co-op studio with a friend, hoping to bring mental health-focused cosy games on the market. Because, you know, late-stage economic and environment collapses are kind of turning everybody a bit mad.
I am a big proponent of finding joy, grace, support and hope when facing struggle. One faces pain easier when equipped with joy, and one accesses joy easier when facing pain.
As diagnosed AuDHD +& in resolution stage, I write about philosophy, social justice, transformation, decolonization and mental health. I also do pro-bono trauma coaching and crisis support for gender and neurodiverse communities and consulting services for therapists looking to better support clients on the neurodiverse & dissociative spectrums. (I would argue that going into the mental health field after 15 years in games is kind of the pipeline 
).
Regarding who I am? If you're a bit into tarot, I'll say that I could identify as the explosive mix of The Fool, The Magician & The Empress. Something like that: I enjoy traveling between worlds and seeking natural truth.
Nice to meet y'all!
Neurodivergent Fedifriends, I have a question for you.
What is this elusive 80% that NTs are talking about when they explain to me that I shouldn't aim for perfection.
Apparently, when they have a job to do, they measure (?) what would be perfect, then they measure 80% of it and they stop working there? 
Do you know how one does that? NTs explanations are not helpful so I thought I would ask my #ADHD #AuDHD and #ActuallyAutistic peeps for guidance.
Can you do that trick of magic and if so, could you please explain to me how?
Let's say have a translation to do. What's an non-burnout inducing 80% of a perfect translation?
Retoots welcome!
Hey, fellow #neurodivergent folks! Especially fellow #AuDHD folks.
Do you have a flirt radar?
I do not.
I never know when anyone is flirting with me.
Almost all the time when it does happen, someone else has to point it out to me & even then, I usually don't see/understand what they're talking about.
I do not know how to flirt either.
I am very direct. In the past, my straight forward nature has intimidated many NTs & some NDs who haven't invested much time in getting to know me better.
I'm quite friendly & engaging with almost anyone whom I find interesting & seems to share similar core values. It doesn't matter what gender, if any, they identify with either.
My straight forward friendly style seems to make many CIS guys think I'm interested in more than platonic friendship, when I am not.
If I like anyone more than just a platonic friend, I am pretty open about telling them that, directly.
If I don't say it - don't assume more than I actually say. I have this thing called, emotional maturity.
I have a few questions for anyone who has periods and is taking ADHD meds (please specify what your taking when answering):
Has your cycle changed?
Have your symptoms before and during your cycle changed?
Has your period been delayed/early?
I have found anecdotal evidence of people saying they experienced changes but i currently lack the spoons to do in depth research. I would really appreciate your help by answering or boosting for a wider reach!
Thanks!
#actuallyautistic
Here is the Venn diagram showing the overlap of ADHD and Autism symptoms. The alt text doesn't fit so I will include it in the replies
I'm getting a lot out of the Neurodivergent Insights newsletter by Dr. Megan Anna Neff. For example, this post about the overlap of ADHD and autism:
https://neurodivergentinsights.com/misdiagnosis-monday/adhd-vs-autism/
Dr. Neff is herself AuDHD who turned her hyperfocus on her neurotype into a PhD in psychology. She's also raising a neurodivergent kid with strong PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance, which she calls Pervasive Drive for Autonomy):
https://neurodivergentinsights.com/blog/pda-or-demand-avoidance/
Instead of, “I can’t unmask because no one will accept me,” what if it’s, “I must unmask because people already aren’t accepting this masked me?”
What if it’s, “I need to find out who will accept the real me.”
Communication/self-care tip of the day: Start saying "I didn't have time for it" instead of "I didn't manage to do it" or similar. Especially when speaking to a representative of the neuromajority.
Let me explain. Regardless why you didn't get something done, you didn't have time for it. Even if you just binged Arcane on a beanbag chair for three days, for you that was a more important, and needed, task than the one you didn't do. You didn't have time for the other one. Also, saying you didn't have time for it, while true I still want to underline, also avoids the social defeat of "I didn't manage to do it". Just try it. Say to your favorite normie "I didn't get it done" about one thing and "I didn't have time for it" for another, and see how they react. And see how you feel yourself too, thinking "I didn't have time for it" instead of "I didn't manage to do it".
Now there's definitely caveats, there are definitely times when it comes down to spoons or forks (and sometimes knives, ask me about my addition to the cutlery theory!) but the thing is, I haven't met a neuromajority person who knows what the heck spoons are. So then I have to explain that to them, using even more spoons. "Sorry, I just don't have time to <do whatever they're asking you to do>" works a lot better than "Sorry, I just don't have spoons for it". Now, I don't have time to write a longer post, gotta go and take a nap.
(A little addendum, when writing in the tags I accidentally wrote AcutelyAutistic... No there's something to let sous vide for a day or two!)
Do not hide yourself.
Be playful and childish, giddy and fearless. Cuddle your plushies, embrace your own softness.
Be calm and collected, firm as a rock. Soothing with an outstretched hand.
Be nerdy and talk about your interests. Loose yourself in the vastness of knowledge.
Laugh and cry as much as you need, stay in your cozy home or go on adventures.
Do everything and nothing at your own pace.
Go crazy with colours or choose the darkest black. Mix, match, thrift, trust your own way of living.
You know yourself best.
You deserve to live your best life.
You are not alone.
You will find your people.
I promise.
#actuallyautistic #ADHD #AuDHD #psa #fightfascism @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd
I hear pinning an #introduction post is the thing to do around here so here we go.
Hi, I’m Kaitlyn (she/her). I’m a stay at home mom to a toddler, living in Colorado with my wife. I am cis but heavily immersed in #trans issues as my wife is trans. I’m a bit of a #history and #psychology nerd, and use my free time #sewing clothes for myself and playing cozy #VideoGames like Power Wash Simulator and Sea of Thieves (sounds less cozy, I know, but I pride myself on my ship parking skills). I used to work (read: hold a volunteer position) in the local #greyhounds community and before that was an English teacher. I am undiagnosed but probably #audhd, as well as #demisexual (shall we say #lesbian presenting?). I am currently involved in my local #QueerChurch and love reading about #QueerTheology (but hate arguing for it). My preferred online engagement can probably be summed up best as “people watching” so don’t mind me, stealthily scrolling past your posts, slowly growing my parasocial relationship with you in secret 
My AuDHD brain essentially has three scripts for.meeting new people and basically none of them are what one might call "socially appropriate"
#ActuallyAutistic #autism #Autistic #ADHD #AuDHD #neurodiversity #neurodivergent @actuallyautistic @autisticadvocacy @neurodiversity @audhd
Be who you are. Be only who you are. At all times. You can try to be a better you, but make sure that you are still you.